The Cycle Unveiled: Understanding How Limiting Patterns Persist, and how to beak them

Have you ever experienced the sensation of constantly walking on eggshells around certain individuals? Does the thought of asserting yourself in a situation fill you with apprehension? Perhaps you find it challenging to voice your opinions and needs, fearing potential backlash or rejection from those around you. This struggle to navigate interpersonal dynamics can be mentally and emotionally draining, leading to a sense of isolation and frustration.

If so, you are certainly not alone, for many people this is a constant reality, and it doesn’t need to be this way. There is a way to free yourself from limiting patterns and be the unlimited being you’re designed to be.

It all started during your childhood when you didn't know any other way of expressing yourself other than to be yourself, but you soon learned the lessons of limitation from those around you so well that now you don't know any other way to be. Every time you were forced into limiting yourself in any way, from being and acting from your true nature you heard "you can't do that", "you can't be like that", because you won’t fit in, you won’t be loved.

As you grew up it becomes so ingrained that anytime a similar situation came up you chose to diminish yourself just a little bit more. You feel you need to do it this way or that way because you need to fit in; fitting in means you will be loved. You don't want to be thought of as crazy, strange or unusual, so you continue to diminish yourself over and over again looking for the unconditional love you know you are deserving of. You vaguely remember it before you came into this physical world.

Most children can still remember until they are around five years old, and then become so indoctrinated into believing that love is outside of yourself, and you need to act and be a certain way to receive it.

And so it goes through your life, you say OK if I do this, or if I act like that I will be loved. If I fit in if I stay inline, I will be loved. The love you are seeking never really show up. You keep limiting yourself bit by bit which forms many self-limiting patterns because you don’t know any other way to attract love but to limit yourself to other’s standards.

It will take a shock to break out of that cycle – that limitation you have placed on yourself because you believe that this is the way it is. You say to yourself “I’ll do the best I can. I’ll try to fit in, I’ll try to be good”. The fact that you are now so entrenched in the belief that “this is how you get that elusive hard to find unlimited love you know deep down inside you exists”.

We have all seen it, we all know the person who excels who breaks the pattern is so often hated and feared by those around them, which reenforces the pattern for others. If you break the mould, if you do well if you exceed, you may lose the love of family, and friends, or your peers. That fear you would not be loved and loose the love you have worked so hard to get. Why was the Christ consciousness crucified on the cross? Why, because of the fear that this was the ultimate expression of that innate, unlimited, fearless being we all are.

There you have the pattern, the repetition of do not break the mould, do not expect too much, stay in line, don’t be a smarty pants, limit yourself to what others expect of you. Be a good person, stay in this belief system that controls you, here is your reward, see I love you.

You can break free of this vicious cycle, these patterns you have been taught to believe is the only way you can receive love.

Most of the time I find clients are not even aware of their patterns, they have been cemented into the psyche for so long they are running on auto pilot.

Belief Behaviour Technique assists people to become not only aware of the beliefs that have caused the pattern, but also eliminate the controlling beliefs to break the patterns. Free yourself, to be the unlimited being you are here to be, unleash yourself and your full potential and find that love has always been there, you were just looking in the wrong place.

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Light and Love

Lyn Collett